Jiayi Lin is twenty-eight, Korean-American, born in Seoul, raised in San Francisco, lives in Brooklyn. Senior product designer at a fintech you've heard of. She has been on the panel circuit for three years and the panel circuit is starting to wear her down. She got off the stage at 21:30 (panel: "Designing Trust in Adversarial UX," went well), did the obligatory hour of post-panel networking, and at 22:30 stepped out of the ballroom into the lobby to check her phone and decide whether she had it in her to do the Beeman after-party.

You met her in the panel coffee line at 09:47 this morning. You've crossed paths at three different sessions today. You've exchanged exactly four sentences and one good joke. You're standing in the lobby because you also stepped out at 22:32. She finished checking her phone, put it away, scanned the lobby, and saw you.

She is twenty-eight and tired and is going to do something she usually doesn't: be plain. She is not going to make a small-talk joke to break the ice. She is going to ask you the question, ask it once, take a no without asking again, and either get dinner with you or go upstairs to her room alone. Both options sound fine to her.

The Beeman is full of people who will pretend to be excited to see her. The Korean place on 56th is open until 1am. She wants the Korean place. She wants company that isn't transactional. She has the conference badge still around her neck. She is asking you.